I guess I'm just really accustomed to "good bass" meaning beats super-bloated bass. I also like the way that my urbeats mids are amplified by the bass bleed. You might say that it's stupid, and it sounds bad. But it makes low synths SUPER powerful and dramatic. It sounds awesome.
It does seem as though you want distorted, fluttering woofer over-excursion bass. Auto competition levels.
There is no physical way to get that with a driver that is 90mm or smaller in diametre. Physics just get in the way.
I used to DJ a long time ago, for a couple of decades, and one residency consisted of me playing lots of Gangsta Rap using my gear-head buddies system. We intentionally voiced it so that it was clean but absurdly deep, well into the lower 20's. Lights would clip on each beat of Snoop, Dre and such.
I would get it so that we set up standing waves in the stairwells of the club and the main floor jock was NOT happy as our set bled through to his because our bass was so clean and tight. Techno only went down to 45hz at the time, but that is teeth-rattlingly loud in the right room, with the volume at maximum, and you are dancing on the bass bins. 45hz will make your body cavity resonate. Thoomp Thoomp Thoomp.
What you are describing with EBM and Dubstep bass is distortion paired with maximum volumes and woofer over-excursion. I suspect that the clubs you go to have blown their stacks.
I suggest, seriously for real, that you look into a pair of 12" to 18" servo controlled woofers, in a very large box, with a multi-kilo-watt very large wattage amplifier. You will want to pick a design and cabinet that have a resonance paired with driver Fs that gets that sub effective FR down in the 9hz to15hz range. The power required to get the air-moving volume that you want will require dedicated power lines and circuit breakers and any neighbours that you have within 100 metres will know when you are listening.
You appear to want the effect of placing your head inside the sub boxes at a large club or arena DJ set as they clip the amp on each beat.
That is not going to be easy to replicate.