With regard to your edit.
I assumed A weighting had something like a Fletcher Munchen curve applied.
Yes, the "A" weighted curve is effectively the inverse of a (updated) Fletcher-Munson curve. However, so are the B and C weightings but they are effectively the inverse of different (higher level) Fletcher-Munson curves.
Im certinaly not saying im right but this seems more complicated than assumed.
Yes, it is complicated, in fact it's still more complicated than you assume. The "A" weighting has been revised several times and it's important because it's an ISO standard that is used by other international bodies to define hearing damage from noise exposure and by governments to set regulations on noise levels. However, it's more complicated than you assume because you're only going down one rabbit hole, the "A" weighting rabbit hole and that's the wrong rabbit hole! ... Or more accurately, how deep the A weighting rabbit hole goes is largely irrelevant because you're ignoring other more pertinent rabbit holes.
"A" weighting is about noise: The levels of self-noise produced by audio equipment, the level of the noise floor in rooms, the levels of noise exposure over time causing hearing damage, the levels of noise above which is illegal or requires employers to provide hearing protecting, etc. However, the question asked by the OP was not about noise levels, it was about music/sound levels and this distinction is important in this instance because it's a different rabbit hole! For example,
@castleofargh stated "
loudness regulations are based on dBA ..." - This is not strictly true, noise level regulations are based on dBA but "loudness" regulations are not. Loudness regulations are based on the LKFS (LUFS in EBU regions) measurement and utilse a different curve from those previously mentioned, the "K" weighted curve. "Loudness" is a different rabbit hole and more relevant to the OP's question than noise levels. The LKFS/LUFS measurement is an integrated digital domain weighting measurement which is equated to SPL using the formula: 78dBSPL(C) = -20dBFS @ 1.228vRMS. Note that the SPL measurement is mandated using the "C" weighting (as are all speaker/room calibration measurements). Also note that this 78dBSPL(C) figure is for speakers in quite a large room, not for HPs. This level would be lower in a smaller room and lower still for HPs.
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