Things are looking up

[crewchief]

Well as a lot of you know my life has been crap for the last couple of months. You can play catch up here with my original thread. Anyways as of today I have a lawyer retained in Ohio that is fully handeling this matter for me. The first order of business is dealing with a Support hearing schedueled for April 14th. My lawyer (she) is going to deal fully with this matter because I am going to be laid up during that time. Then comes the divorce and family plan later.

Another thing that is looking up is after waiting a year I finally have a surgery date. I will be going under the knife on March 27th, but it won't be too bad as it is a rotator cuff repair. Thay are doing it outpatient and they said for me to plan on 4 months of recovery

Through no planning of my own I am happy that I should make it to the Spring Seattle Head-Fi Meet on the 22nd.

The last thing that is looking up for me is having all of my cans back up and running. I know it sounds a little selfish, but people that are my support think that there is nothing wrong in treating myself every once in awhile during this process. Like going out to eat, buying a magazine, go out and have a beer to make some friends (Josh that's for you

) and whatnot. They say breaking my depressing mental cycle is the best thing I can do so that I hold it together for my son. He is my rock, my everything and because of him I have the drive in me to see this to the end.

Also one last thing, a big THANK YOU to all the members here that have supported me here. Especially those that have gone above and beyond the crowd, you know who you are.

Joel

 

[plainsong]

I know you're going through an unimaginably tough time, and it's safe to say most of us are on your side in this.

But I'll just give my criticism out loud and wonder why, if your son is what you live for, you're in another state where it will be tougher to fight for him? That just makes no sense to me. I wouldn't want to hear how important I was to my dad, but not important enough to be in the same state?

I know, I know, that doesn't help your depression, and that getting back to Ohio isn't an easy path at all because you'd loose that support network. But then again, he's your son and that just kind of overrides everything in my mind.

But that doesn't mean I'm not rooting for you.

 

[dgbiker1]

Best of luck chief. I went through some similar troubles a little over a year ago (rocky relationship, mother's addiction problems), albeit on a smaller scale.
I must suggest, head east ~1 hr on I-90 and hike Snow Lake (recovery permitting). Nothing made me feel better and put things into perspective like that neck of the woods for me.
Hang in there, surely you have a pretty good stockpile of karma ready to cash in!

 

[crewchief]

No that's OK plainsong I understand your curiosity. It is a little longer but the short of it is that I came out to WA on a 2 hour notice. Now when I came out the intention was maybe working on the relationship. That was Her dad's explaination to me anyways, like spend 60-90 days apart to gain prespective. Well as if turns out the relationship is irretrievably broken so hence the official seperation and divorce. In the mean time I do have that surgery that I have to get done. This surgery has been delayed now for over a year, and part of the plan is I need to get fixed so that I can return to work for my son. This will perhaps give me the ability to start anew back in Ohio close to my son. Trust me that is where the battle is going to happen and I know this, but have faith that my lawyer and I have a plan set. Thank you for your thoughts though.

 

[Luminette]

Really glad to hear things looking up for you like this Crew - and I agree- treat yourself to these things / experiences where you can. And I especially agree on getting the cans going again- music is, or at least, certainly can be, a lot, lot lot more powerful and important than just a fun tune.. nothin like lettin go and listening to someone who seems to know just how you're feelin. Hope you've got music to fit

 

[Aimless1]

Happy to hear things are beginning to turn your way. Music has always helped me heal emotionally and to help lift my depression. I don't consider the enjoyment of music a luxury ... it's a necessity, and a powerful healer!

 

[ricksome]

Crew..I've been following the original thread and this one. My prayers are with you and your son..../ Rick

 

[Uncle Erik]

Glad to hear things are looking up for you! Four months of recovery is a long time - have you lined up anything to keep you occupied? Good luck with things in Ohio, too. I hope you get to see your son soon.

 

[manofmathematics]

I read through the other thread but didn't want to post being that we don't know eachother, not even around here. But now, I must wish you good luck with everything. I will think of you during times of silence in hope of peace in your life and heart.

 

[bhjazz]

Joel, you need to take in a meet. That would do you good! How about one in...Seattle?

 

[plainsong]

Good luck, Crew. This makes me wish a lawyer friend of the family (she's now a judge I think) practiced law in Ohio. She specialized in these kind of deadbeat mom cases and her nickname was The Ladykiller. I hope you get a Ladykiller to help you get your son back.

Once some time passes and mom gets healthy, then she should always be a part of his life of course, but for right now, you need a Ladykiller.