[Happy Camper]

Then let me wish you success on whatever your goals and desires. I hope you find a way that works for you. Everyone deserves peace.

 

[MomijiTMO]

Some of these posts make me a tad peeved. Man up. A lot of people aren't immune to the bad brush and have crap happen in their lives. It's these experiences that make us who we are. I'd never trade some of the unpleasant memories because these painful events are the cornerstones of my identity. They make me view the world different whereas most of my friends are too naive to be asking such questions.

We are only here for a finite period and why not set out to make the most of it. Otherwise just think of all the precious resources you are consuming and let some other disadvantaged person have them if life is oh so fricken terrible.

EDIT: Ok so since I had that cold Coke Zero, I have come to realise that this post is pretty unfair but hey so is life. I'm not saying go top yourself because that sucks. What I was trying to say is that seeing you are here, why not make the most of it. At the very least, try and make life funny. Go out, do stuff purely to entertain yourself. If getting headphones is your thing, why not buy some.

Ok to reply to the OP, if I could do anything again in my life, I'd be honest with myself and my feelings at a younger age. It would have made everything much easier and I'd be a happier person because I wouldn't keep on trying to deceive myself.

 

[slytown]

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Originally Posted by P4Z /img/forum/go_quote.gif Seems I'm somehow in the same boat. Consider that your opinion/gauge of happiness/pleasure is relative to your gauge/opinion (and experience) of suffering/pain. If by some mental/physical disability you couldn't experience negative emotion or physical discomfort, the world would seem much more pointless than if you couldn't experience positive emotions or pleasure. So seek safety and comfort in life, then work for stable income to allow a constant enough array of opportunities to enjoy...what else is there for an indifferent person. I hope somethin cheers you up today Kirosia.

I agree totally. If their is a "meaning of life," derived by determined means or free will, I think it's that experience and knowledge are privileges. As most people do when the black stuff hits the fan, I wish I could take it back. But, if it were really possible, I think trying to change something would weigh on my conscience afterwards. That idea of a utopia or dystopia I think is bogus, which is partly why I'm 99.9% agnostic. Not that the pursuit of something better isn't good, but that agonizing over perfection is trivial. I accept whatever mistakes I make or sufferings that occur as facts of life and find it more constructive to learn or understand those things better than to sit in regret.

So, I guess my answer is nothing.

 

[pimfram]

Nothing too major I would change in my life. There have been a few times I didn't have the balls to ask a girl out, and some times I should have stuck up for myself. Nothing that I've ever lost any sleep over, just stuff that makes me wonder "What if".

 

[muddyglass]

i sometimes wish i had learned how to better communicate with other people at a young age. on the other hand, this deficit has played an essential role in forging who i am today.

 

[MD1032]

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Originally Posted by hardRAWKR /img/forum/go_quote.gif I would either redo the 3rd grade (the year I started to slack off) or redo the time that I was babysitting my friend's guinea pig and forgot to lock its cage up (my dog killed it).

Isn't it weird how random bad things we do as children haunt us for the rest of our lives? I don't understand it at all.

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Originally Posted by MomijiTMO /img/forum/go_quote.gif if I could do anything again in my life, I'd be honest with myself and my feelings at a younger age. It would have made everything much easier and I'd be a happier person because I wouldn't keep on trying to deceive myself.

I'm not sure what you're referring to here, but I would say that this is one of the most important things to realize in life. It took me a long time of being made fun of in school (middle, especially) to make me change something and I'm not sure what happened, but somewhere along the line my personality just changed and I decided to just be myself, be comfortable with myself, and just not care what people (especially ***holes who are out for nothing but to belittle others to make themselves feel better about themselves) think about me. This tends to piss a good amount of people off, but it sure beats the hell out of just shutting it all in and hating yourself.

 

[AVALover5498]

I hate my life, the only thing keeping my going is music and what is left in this bottle of Jack Daniel's. **** everything.

-Chris-

 

[krismusic]

I reckon psychoanalysis is the way forward. That and counting our blessings.

 

[Pepsi]

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Originally Posted by AVALover5498 /img/forum/go_quote.gif I hate my life, the only thing keeping my going is music and what is left in this bottle of Jack Daniel's. **** everything. -Chris-

I really don't believe you feel that way. Maybe at this particular time you may, but if you just keep trying it'll get better. In order to succeed you need to go out there and get it yourself, not sit on your azz, get drunk and say damn. Go out, volunteer, chill with your friends, find that structure in your life.

 

[Kpalsm]

I can vouch for volunteering, can be quite rewarding. I did a lot of it in my teens, helped me stay off the bottle (never touched a drop!) and above the ground.

 

[slytown]

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Originally Posted by Pepsi /img/forum/go_quote.gif I really don't believe you feel that way. Maybe at this particular time you may, but if you just keep trying it'll get better. In order to succeed you need to go out there and get it yourself, not sit on your azz, get drunk and say damn. Go out, volunteer, chill with your friends, find that structure in your life.

Depends on how you define success. I for one think people have a right to be depressed or frustrated. That is a part of life. He has music to get him thru it, so what's the problem, as long as he has some hindsight, right? For instance whenever some stranger yells at me for no reason, I just brush it off instead of getting mad myself. Everyone should be allowed to get upset within reason. For me, personality doesn't make the person, but character does. I think that idea is especially hard to come to in the modern age.

 

[AVALover5498]

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Originally Posted by Pepsi /img/forum/go_quote.gif I really don't believe you feel that way. Maybe at this particular time you may, but if you just keep trying it'll get better. In order to succeed you need to go out there and get it yourself, not sit on your azz, get drunk and say damn. Go out, volunteer, chill with your friends, find that structure in your life.

I truly do hate my life. I'm not saying I'm going to sit around and sulk all day. I get out of the house. I'm taking classes. I hang out with friends. But I hate all of it.

-Chris-

 

[lousymusician]

I can't say all of my decisions have been good. I could say I should have chosen a different major in college, I should have never married my first wife... I could certainly have been richer than I am, and had more women.

But I have a good life, a decent job with a solid company, no significant debt beyond a mortgage, a loving spouse, and two great, smart, kind young adult offspring. To change any of those things that went before would be to wish my children out of existence, to wish I had never met my second wife. I could never do that so I guess I'll have to pass on that Mulligan. Thanks anyway.

Bill

 

[wanderman]

I haven't made enough mistakes or lived long enough to speak with any authority. I will have to edit this on my death bed.

 

[Pepsi]

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Originally Posted by slytown /img/forum/go_quote.gif Depends on how you define success. I for one think people have a right to be depressed or frustrated. That is a part of life. He has music to get him thru it, so what's the problem, as long as he has some hindsight, right? For instance whenever some stranger yells at me for no reason, I just brush it off instead of getting mad myself. Everyone should be allowed to get upset within reason. For me, personality doesn't make the person, but character does. I think that idea is especially hard to come to in the modern age.

Success to me just means progress. Of course, I 100% agree with you that everyone should be depressed at some point in their lives, but i also do believe that you should also learn to get over it and move on. It's that transition that builds your character and your personality.


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Originally Posted by AVALover5498 /img/forum/go_quote.gif I truly do hate my life. I'm not saying I'm going to sit around and sulk all day. I get out of the house. I'm taking classes. I hang out with friends. But I hate all of it. -Chris-

May i ask what has lead to you look at life with such pessimism?