I hate my brother. (rant)

[Kirosia]

My brother was harassing me a few minutes ago just because yesterday I asked him if he ate some of my cereal. He acted as if I was calling him a thief or something. It was just some cereal dammit. He's been doing this my entire life. He always stole from me: food, money, you name it. He'd alway make me feel bad for accusing him, but 99%, he did do it. We've fought (literally) since we were kids. My parents told us never too talk to each other ever. By the way, he's 24yrs old, I'm 18 (we're half brothers). He's twice as strong as I am, but maybe 1/10 of the IQ. If you know anything about cambodians, you know that we fight every battle like our life is on the line) My brother is the only one who can me truly angry. When I was younger he would constantly beat the crap out of me, to the point that my parents had to send me to my sister's everyday (they had to work). Most of our relatives know of our hatred for one another. (We're the black sheep). Everyone hates him. Seriously.

He can make anyone hate him like that. He is an inconsiderate, self-centered fool. He thinks he's "all that". The guy doesn't shower or brush his teeth. My parents have even tried to bribe him to groom himself. He barely has a job, no car, no license, nothing. He stares at 14yr old girls like a freakin' pervert. Women are repulsed by him. He says the stupidest things. I can get a girl before he ever could. I've flirted with women in their 20s without even trying.

Throughout the years, I've tried to be friends with him, but he always does something to bother the hell out of me. He keeps going further and further, pushing me. I'm not a violent person, but I will throw a punch. The last time we fought, he bruised my arms and chest, but I hit his legs so hard he couldn't work for a few days. This time (which was a few minutes ago), I got a few punches off the back of is head before my parents pulled me off him. I wanted to get him in the face, with his rotting gums, a few punches would knock his disgusting yellow teeth right out. When it comes to him, I become a completely different person. I guess there will always be a side of me that despises him. He's helped make my life hell for 18 years, but not anymore. I will fight back if I have to, even if I know I'll lose. The war is on.

(BTW don't take this into something it's not. I really don't want to fight him, I'm just saying I'll defend myself. No crazy stuff. I've always been a fighter, it's something I enjoy doing. But I am not an advocate of violence. We all have primal instincts, don't we?)

 

[chiefroastbeef]

i'm sorry to hear about this, this is probably one of the worst cases i've heard.

the only problem i see with you guys is what you might do to each other in the future, not to exaggerate but it sounds like it can become fatal.

what i suggest you to do is just live your life and try to get away from him, no offence but he sounds like the scum of society whose home should be jail

btw- i am willing to be your hired assassin

sorry to hear your situation, my bro and i get along fine(i'm almost 18 and he's almost 20) i will join him for college in NY

hope your situation turns better, or if anything else, not worst


what the hell do you mean, you are a fighter but yet you don't fight or don't enjoy fighting...

 

[Kirosia]

I doubt it would become fatal. As long as we avoid each other. I'm not a violent person, I believe people can solve their problems other ways. But since I was a child I was forced to fight to defend myself. I've always live in the not-so-peaceful neighborhoods. But I admit that when I fight, I get a huge adrenaline rush. Even if I know I will lose, (the fight, not my life) I will strive forward to try and win. Nowadays, I normally back down when someone tries to fight me. There are exceptions though.

 

[chiefroastbeef]

the problem is him, he seems almost non-human, you can't resolve conflicts with someone that stares at 14 yearolds(or something like it)

but then again you know alot more than i do about your life, just use the best judgement, don't step into unnecessary predicaments

when my bro and i fight(rarely), we pulled each others' hair and kicked each other in the nuts, that was about it, i can never hurt my bro(yet he's willing to hurt me)

 

[Kirosia]

Yeah, I wish I had a "brother" to horse around with. My parents actually think that if we continue fighting, one of us will be in jail, and the other dead. I'm pretty sure it won't go that far. I've learned to tolerate him a bit over the years. But he's pissed off alot of people (including gangbangers), I'm the least of his worries. I honestly don't want him to die or anything, but to just to give me and other people respect. I have none left for him.

 

[D-EJ915]

Are you going to college this year?? You said you were 18, if I were you, I'd NOT come home and just stay at somebody else's place and then go on your own once out of school. It sounds like he's really dangerous, I'd stay faaar away.

 

[Kirosia]

I am going to college, but I'm commuting. He'll be at work most of the time (he cleans dishes, everyone there hates him). My parents threatened to kick him out if he starts with me again. The only reason they let him stay here is because they need him to help pay rent.

 

[Wodgy]

I hate to say it, and my intent is well-meaning, but you've got to cut it out with the white trash behavior. If your life is turning into an epsiode of "Cops" or "Geraldo", something is seriously wrong. I know a lot of people love watching "Cops", but that's not a life to aspire to.

Look, people failed you along the way. If you were getting beat up regularly when you were younger so badly that you had to stay with someone else, your parents failed you. Someone, a teacher perhaps, should have noticed and called Child Protective Services to have you removed from the home. I empathize with you; it must have been awful.

But that's all water under the bridge now. You're 18 and you need to start acting like an adult. Adults don't assault one another and brag about how they caused so much damage the other guy couldn't work for a few days. If he hits you, leave immediately. If this happens regularly, call the police. It's assault. Start making plans to get out of the house. Get a job, move in with some friends or your sister, start handling this like an adult. Otherwise you're going to have a long, awful future ahead of you. Sorry for the tough love, but you need it.

(By the way, your brother sounds like he has some kind of mental illness. Excessive aggression, antisocial behavior, complete lack of hygiene, aberrant sexuality, etc. Sorry you have to live with that, but it's not your responsibility to fix him. Stay out of his way and get the hell out of the house.)

 

[go_vtec]

I think it is important to vent your steam before it gets too serious. You have all our ears... I too have an older brother and we've been through quite a bit of history too. As I look back, I am just glad I didn't do anything I would have regret at this moment

There were few close calls though. Imagine, in few years perhaps even sooner, you will be out of your parents house... may be college, job, military... who knows

Just hang on little while longer and crank up the music and eat some soul food.

 

[braillediver]

Wodgy is making a lot of sense.

Besides I'm sure your brother would have a very different version of the events.

It almost sounds like an abusive relationship, domestic violence and all. The abused wife stays because the abusive husband loves her?

If it’s that bad get out of there and on with your life? If you stay you’ll only develop severe mental problems, which might be hard to reconcile in the future. It sure isn’t doing you any good the way things are now.


Mitch

 

[BlindTiger]

I used to have a great relationship with my bro until we fought over money.
anyway, it's good to have a 500 mile separation between us and yes, I'd wish he would grow up sometimes. (he dabbled with the horse)
I've had times where I put my hands up too and he was defensive almost arrogant about it.
Ever watch "everybody loves raymond"? Don't worry obsessively over it, every family is a little bit dysfunctional.

 

[Kirosia]

It's not that bad. Once I can leave, I will. You have to understand, I'm not trying to blame society or anything. I'm just trying to deal with this. My parents did what they could, they themselves had their own problems (putting food on the table, etc). I love them, they came from a terrible life, and made a new one. But life is different now. I'm going leave all that crap behind, just like they did. I'm gonna move forward as fast as I can. But,I just hate my brother. My relatives used to feel sorry for him because they though he was just weird. But now they hate him too. My brother has this odd ability to piss everyone off. I've tried to patch things up, but nothing works. If I avoid him, he won't do anything. And yes, I think he has some mental problems. I think recently he's been seeing a psychiatrist friend of my parents. This is why I know not to mess with him. But, he knows the consequences of his actions. He's just a bully.

Things will be okay if we just don't talk. Forever.

 

[Wodgy]

Have you thought about joining the military? It would do you a world of good, and you could get out of the house immediately. The military is a lifeline designed for folks in your kind of situation. (It will also help you learn how to control, direct, and manage feelings of aggression and anger, something which it sounds like you didn't have a chance to learn growing up.)

I know you're starting college, but if you're taking a college major that's not directly related to a job or vocation, the military might also be the smarter option career-wise.

 

[Kirosia]

I have thought about the military, but I know it wouldn't be right for me. I used to be in ROTC, but I just don't think I'm cut out for it. I can control my anger and stuff, it's just that when it comes to certain things or people, I can be a real ass. Ask anyone I know, I'm really a peaceful and friendly guy (most of the time).

 

[zeplin]

I think the better person for the military is your brother. Surely it would at the very least teach him to respect others and give him some sense of responsibility. This is what I would suggest to your parents as I know it has worked very well for some other people I know that sound very similar to your brother. Good luck! And keep listening to your headphones for that relief from the reality that is your dumb ***** brother.