Onix
Papá de Iñaki
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Hi guys, been a while. It's 4:00 here and I can't sleep. Let's say that there are a bunch of things on my mind rigth now. My wife and I are getting on a rough spot now and I am afraid I could loose her and my kind anytime soon. And that is not a very good prospect, specially since I really miss my boy. But that's not really the reason I am writing now. I was wondering if somebody could give me some advice. You see, I have a debt of $850.00 on my credit card, a secured one I got with Providian some 3 years ago (I am not asking for money, don't worry), and never had a problem until May, and I have been missing payments since. I would not be able to pay for at least another couple months, since most of my money now is going to legal stuff, maintenaince and another rent now. The minimums are just 35 dollars, but sending the money to the U.S. from Mexico costs more than 40 dollars, so I can't do crap about the payments, and Providian won't take foreign funds, specially after all the stuff that happened with their Argentinian customers.
Basically, I think I have the following options:
1- Talk to them in order to find a way to send them money, not a very expensive one so I can cover my debt.
2- Not paying at all (some friend says that they can't hurt my credit, being in Mexico and all, but it doesn't seem fair to me. Besides, I am not so sure they can't reach me here)
3- Get a local credit card and pay my debt with it (sounds viable, but I would just be moving my debt from one place to another, not really paying it).
I would really like to go for number one, but if I could go with number two, hell, I'll take it. I have a bunch of stuff on my hands and feel pretty willing to loose some of it. I need some orientation here, please.
So, anyway, I haven't felt like this for a long time. Can't sleep, my stomach is pretty much messed up and I am loosing weigth fast. I know that if I was single I would not have all this crap in my life, but I really miss my wife and boy.
I don't know why, but for the last year or so I have felt that my dreams and aspirations have gradually become nothing. I used to want to have a great audio system or really expensive headphones, some cool music to show my kid and a bunch of movies. Now, sometimes I wish I did not have to see my wife, or go "home", feeling really, really lonely. Between the problems with my wife, my work and the rest of my convoluted life, all the good stuff that I now have is just the smile and pretty eyes of my baby looking at me like I am the coolest thing he have ever seen. How can I correspond that? How can I be or even try to be a good parent if all my life is falling over me now? Hey, how can I be a good parent when I can't even have a good relationship with my mother?
Damn! I am 34, and all those years of responsabilities and pressure I did not endure are falling over my head really, really fast.
Well, anyway, this is getting weird and way too long. If somebody has some advice, it would be greatly appreciated (sp?). Thanks people.
Basically, I think I have the following options:
1- Talk to them in order to find a way to send them money, not a very expensive one so I can cover my debt.
2- Not paying at all (some friend says that they can't hurt my credit, being in Mexico and all, but it doesn't seem fair to me. Besides, I am not so sure they can't reach me here)
3- Get a local credit card and pay my debt with it (sounds viable, but I would just be moving my debt from one place to another, not really paying it).
I would really like to go for number one, but if I could go with number two, hell, I'll take it. I have a bunch of stuff on my hands and feel pretty willing to loose some of it. I need some orientation here, please.
So, anyway, I haven't felt like this for a long time. Can't sleep, my stomach is pretty much messed up and I am loosing weigth fast. I know that if I was single I would not have all this crap in my life, but I really miss my wife and boy.
I don't know why, but for the last year or so I have felt that my dreams and aspirations have gradually become nothing. I used to want to have a great audio system or really expensive headphones, some cool music to show my kid and a bunch of movies. Now, sometimes I wish I did not have to see my wife, or go "home", feeling really, really lonely. Between the problems with my wife, my work and the rest of my convoluted life, all the good stuff that I now have is just the smile and pretty eyes of my baby looking at me like I am the coolest thing he have ever seen. How can I correspond that? How can I be or even try to be a good parent if all my life is falling over me now? Hey, how can I be a good parent when I can't even have a good relationship with my mother?
Damn! I am 34, and all those years of responsabilities and pressure I did not endure are falling over my head really, really fast.
Well, anyway, this is getting weird and way too long. If somebody has some advice, it would be greatly appreciated (sp?). Thanks people.