I can sorta see both sides here, but firstly let me just say that it was completely wrong of her to post your personal information online. And secondly, just glancing at this list, most of the noises are made during the day, and (here at least), people are free to walk around their homes and play music without fear of complaints during the day. The day lasts from 7am-11pm.
But has the management given you warnings? Were the sounds you were making loud enough for that? If so, then here at least, it's three warnings and you're evicted. It's been that way in the last two buildings I lived in here in Helsinki. So just be careful, and try to be understanding when using speakers... and don't walk flatfooted!
Now then, for peaceful apartment living, we've found that people are more understanding of such things as parties (I suppose you were having parties when she mentioned stampedes?), if you post a notice somewhere where everyone can see it. It just gives a nice heads-up to your neighbors, and they're less likely to call and complain if they know it's coming.
We had a noisy neighbor that we almost called and complained about on several occassions. It wasn't because he clumped around his apartment as loud as he could (we nicknamed him Clumpy), and it wasn't because he almost burned down the entire building one easter weekend (a neighbor saved his life, and he never even thanked the guy)...it was because at about 3 or 4am on weekends, he became a very loud Master P. At the top of his lungs he'd go "UHHHHHHHHHHH!" as loud as he could. He'd go on for hours until he passed out, I suppose. I wonder what was turning him into Master P.
But we never kept a log on the guy, and during the days he had a right to clump around all he wanted. Now in this building, the place above us has it's little quirks. They must have done a monster renovation because we thought they had a construction business up there. But see, during the day, that's their right. And even now, at precisely 6pm, they start the dragging of the furniture over hardwood floors. They are absolutely destroying their floor. But we don't log it, it's just funny. They also now have a baby, who we call BamBam because she likes to sit on the floor and smack it with what I assume is a spoon (I hope it's only a spoon!). You can hear the baby playing with their Springer Spaniel and it's just all part of apartment life. After all, those in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. We have a dachshund, who, like all good doxies, loves to bark! And she sounds huge. Now we have it under control, but every now and then, about two or three times a day, she'll let loose. Now if we complain about the furniture-moving and baby BamBam, what do you think they'll say about our dog? It's just not a perfect world.
Now above them are some obnoxious people who like to begin partying at 3am. They've stopped for a while, so I can only assume they were warned. Then below us is a nice college student who posts notes informing us when there will be a party, kind soul.
It's just all part of apartment living, no use complaining to anyone about it. But I hope that somehow, after you can get her to take your personal info down, you can work it out somehow.
