Originally Posted by Dane
Heh, funny thread. And there are definitely two sides of the story.
Oh no! Please understand that this is exactly what you do NOT do, it will sound like an earthquake downstairs. My upstairs neighbor did this, walked around normally (i.e. like you do down at the street, briskly, heel first). It was a nightmare. My ceiling and floor (yes floor) shaked so much that I could visibly see lamps swaying.
He was totally unaware of the noise he caused and didn't even believe that it came from him. So our first confrontation didn't go well (probably thought I was nuts). To my immense luck his next door neighbor complained independently of me asking whether he kept horses in his apartment. When he finally realized that he really annoyed his neighbors he made an effort to walk around thoughtfully and everybody is happy now. No problem and no hard feelings.
The point here is that he wasn't jumping or running around, he just walked normally around (street walk). And you just dont do that in an appartment - one single "street walk" step causes a gigantic thump that walkes up sleeping people, and surprise, that pisses them off.
So, for goodness sake, understand that you should walk around lightly. Try to listen to your own walk, what do you hear? Do you hit the floor heel first? Walking lightly is such a tiny effort, so why not do it? My upstairs neightbor could (and would) learn it, so can you.
WRT the music - you have headphones right
All this being said, this lady clearly needs help. What a sad person - you really seem to fill up her life