Yeah I'll admit I definately screwed up by not protecting myself there but the only way the seller would take my money was via friends and family do to the fact I had no trade history on head fi yet. In fact I payed the other way first and he refunded my money and said he wouldn't send them unless I used paypal friends and family which I was uncomfortable about doing and I didn't listen to my gut and stop the deal right there. Anyway going back to the post office to see what they've got to say today.
Sounds like this seller knew they wouldn't take refunds for this format. It is clear you were scammed. I would give paypal a call or support email and see what they suggest.