There are all these different perspectives, and they are all valid. The person creating this thread is suggesting that audiophiles don't like music, because from his point of view he doesn't understand some of the choices they make. But that's the limitation of his point of view. As we have seen many people who spend $20,000 on a headphone system are indeed music-lovers, soaking in a rich variety of the elements of music, taking it in on all levels (head, heart, and gut). For the pleasure I get from my $20,000 system it's worth it. It's my most prized possession and it gives me transcendent pleasure. But live music is even better. I just happen to be an introvert who likes evenings spent alone and I have a collector's instinct. Everyone has their own way of loving music, and this is mine. And don't put mine down or say I'm not a music lover, that's just rude. I won't put you down. If you are transported to heaven by a clock radio, I won't dispute it. I honor and respect your way of enjoying music.
If it's pitches and harmonies you like, go for it! If you can hear those fine in a PortaPro that's all you need. You just saved $1000's. If you groove on instrumental timbre, find a system that represents the beauty of timbre well enough to please you, and go for it.
If you turn up your nose at $100 stereos, no judgment here. I don't see that as a pathology. It's just one valid perspective. It's a way of honoring the music. You wouldn't want to see your wife dressed in trashy clothes, right? Do you love your wife less if you put a high value on seeing her in well-styled clothes that complement her beauty? No, you don't love your wife less. Maybe you love her more, by respecting her too much to see her look trashy.
Let me take a step back here for a second. Are there pathologies? Yes, there are a few people who get caught up in equipment and don't develop much appreciation of music. I do believe I've seen that happen. But that's the minority. The OP here has not discovered anything like that--he is just trying to describe this world through his own limited perspective and so he makes wrong assumptions about it.