Originally Posted by Armaegis
I met up with this girl and we spent the day together doing random window shopping and checking out the local music festival. We seemed to hit it of really well and enjoyed each other's company. I drove her back home and walked her to the door, then decided I would make an aggressive move and go in for a kiss. Well, I guess the aggressiveness was reciprocated and we went indoors. Now, I'm not normally one to do that sort of thing. First and only time actually, but the moment was there and we ran with it. We talked about it afterwards, agreed we went way too fast, but we were both adults and there were no regrets.
So the next day I drove her to work, and said we'd catch up later and figure out what was happening. We spoke on the phone later that night and she was having a bit of a panic since she'd never done that before either and I guess was feeling guilty and confused. I tried to reassure her, and wanted to make plans to see her again which seemed to reassure her. (the plans were to go to the amusement park).
The next next day we speak again, and again she's in a tiff. I get the "nice guy" speech and she's decided she's going to run back to her ex. Apparently I was "too perfect" and it was freaking her out and she couldn't handle it. So she'd rather go back to the ex who was boring and didn't pay enough attention to her and who apparently was a lousy lover.
Makes total sense right?
A bit of digging on my part later, oh it turns out he wasn't really the "ex"...
Its probably just that she didint want to experience something new, even if she thought it was better, because she was scared about something or not ready to move on into having feelings for anyone else. Running back to her ex was probably a sign of comfort for her because even if it wasnt perfect, it was sometihng she understood.
Some people are brave, others arent, even when it comes to good things. It sucks cuz u guys were hitting it off really well, but yea in these situations you just have to give it some time. Be friends, and as friends become comfortable together. As she spends more time with you, im sure shell be less scared about having feelings for someone again or something of that sort.
Wait i dont get what u mean by "
A bit of digging on my part later, oh it turns out he wasn't really the "ex"..."
...Yes im terrible at deciphering colloquial phrases, especially those that refer to ambiguous objects