wow, don't mean to go anymore OT on this thread, but I've never been so engaged in a thread. Since this thread, I've been able to identify problems I seem to have by keeping myself emotionally, mentally and physically in check (I have WAY to many mental/emotional problems such as emotional un-stability, uncontrolled eating, lack of self-confidence, random sudden increases in cockiness and rude traits similar to that and a lack of productivity to name a few).
A lot of the advice given in this thread is really just "common sense" under a different guise. Treat women as people, not objects. Be confident in yourself. Know yourself. Have conversation, not interrogations. etc. You could write a book on each of those. There's also the skeevy world of the pick-up-artist, which really pushes a lot of "techniques" into the slightly negative side of things, but that's a different realm altogether.
Most things just boil down to respect and understanding, of both yourself and those around you. Recognize attraction for what it is; don't glamourize or force it. Etc etc.
If you recognize problems in yourself, then you're already a step ahead of the game. Take the time to understand what and why those are there. Work on them. Fix them. You'll better understand those around you when you have.
Careful with the eating. I've gone down a dark path with that myself and there's very little resources for men out there. It took me over a year to get back into a healthy mindspace, but more than ten years later I still have to fight off those relapsing feelings every now and again.
I once met a woman like that.
After talking to her for a while, I realized that her beauty was a burden to her.
It was apparent that she found it difficult to deal with men who couldn't get past her stunning looks!
Franky, it took me about an hour or two to get past it myself!
I think extremely beautiful, yet intelligent rational women, have a problem dealing with people in their day to day lives.......
Sometimes beautiful people (not just women) also do not quite realize how differently the world treats them. Yes they recognize that people are attracted to them, that much is very obvious, but even just in general non-sexualized behaviour people tend to be "nicer" to those who are "pretty". They get more attention, preferential treatment, more benefits,etc. Oftentimes it's not even intentional from the person giving it, but it's human nature. On the flipside, sometimes there's the rare case where someone reacts negatively to a pretty person (beyond stereotyping), and that might not be intentional either.