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Your family doesn't like you because you're still a teenager, welcome to the club, been there, done that.
Think about all the friends you'll have later in life, their lives will have been a little emptier without you.
When you're depressed, you don't always look at the big picture, as you're caught up in the immediate context of your life.
As you get older, and have survived more of life's battles you realise there's more to life than what's in front of you.
Depressions are caused by a chemical imbalance http://psychcentral.com/news/2006/11/09/depressions-chemical-imbalance-explained/398.html.
I'm not saying your life isn't hard, but understanding the reason for the pain is very helpful for me! Just know, that it Can be cured, and this is not a feeling you need to have for the rest of your life. I suggest you find professional help, they will be able to help you out and fix this imbalance. Maybe you don't need drugs, maybe you just need a friend and a good night's sleep.
Another thing, do you sleep enough? Sleep deprivement can cause many psychological disorders, never forget to sleep enough friend!
Well, it is possible to take action on your own. Seek help somewhere, go to a social worker or something. They will help you.
What would they tell your parents, that you asked for help because you are depressed? :p
Social workers are mostly pretty cool, they probably wouldn't tell your parents if you asked them.
It wasn't 18 for me, but 21-22 was one of my lowest points. It was the end of undergrad, I had just broken up with my first girlfriend (3+ years), life was changing, I was fat, I had no friends, I was alone. I was depressed. I moped for a while until I finally realized that it was only me holding myself back. I had to wake up and kick myself in the ass. It took me an incredibly long time to actually figure that out. Saying it is one thing, but doing is another. Self awareness can't come from strangers on the internet. It takes hitting your head on a wall for a long time to make sense of things.
That was one of the hardest but best years of my life. I dropped 50 pounds, I made friends, I joined social groups, I learned to dance. I transformed myself and became a better person. I became a leader. Now I'm not saying to let go of the things that make you who you are now, but dig deep and express the parts that you've been afraid to let out. Think of them like the sad voices inside, but they're only sad because they haven't been heard. Express your mind, express your body, and live the hell out of life.
Now, it won't be all unicorns and poopin' rainbows from here. Your best and worst years are still ahead of you. There will be times of joy that will make you weep. Revel in it. There will be times that will stomp you on the curb. Learn from them, flip 'em the bird, keep calm and carry on. Being depressed is passive and lazy, and accomplishes nothing.
Accomplish something. Anything. Take pride in it. Be humble. Be strong. If you don't know what to do, be good to others and go from there.
Live to inspire, until you believe in yourself. Then, don't stop.
Then it's time to do some soul searching and find something that is self-fulfilling.
There's that slippery slope in doing for others where you've taken yourself so far out of the equation that you are no longer a factor. Don't let that become a crutch.