Originally Posted by blueangel2323
I'm very heartbroken right now... the first girl I genuinely fell for in years turned me down
Sir, I'm almost in your situation, so I'll try to say what I want to say to myself. First of all, most of the pain is inflicted on us by ourselves, we think a lot, our mind races and we try to find out all the things that could have meant something as a signal, so we can continue to hope. Also comparisons NEVER help but only serve to drag us into the forlorn hole.
We should learn to let go, I don't believe in the concept of more fish in the ocean as I don't really fall for a girl, but I follow the concept that there's someone out there who will appreciate me for who I am, and that person wasn't "that" person.
One should try and stay normal and be happy for oneself.
In my case, it's the second time I've liked a girl in all these years of my existence, and I told her that I liked her. To my dismay (and sadly not to my shock) she told me she never felt anything for me and that I was just a great friend to her. For me, I've personally have had enough of all the "formality" friendships and have seen some changes within myself, the major one being my utter hatred for anything involving social interaction. The thing is that I can either kill all those feelings and be just friends with her or break it all, apparently the other person doesn't want to break it off but says that she values our friendship, however I've seen the care wane more than almost anything. I've now decided to be a hermit and stay away from people, and more-so girls, as far as possible. And I know it's not good, but it's what a man's gotta do to survive. There were a lot of things that were a sure-shot signal for me but apparently they were only friendly-gestures from her side. I've changed and now I can never be who I once was.
If there's once thing I believe in @blueangel2323 it's that whatever happens it's for the good. Almost everything happens for the good, and the exceptions don't involve things like these.
So I've told her that I feel nothing towards her, and she says we can start afresh but the truth is that I can't stay friends with anyone, especially her.
@gikigill: Aptly chosen quote Sir