Originally Posted by roy_jones
I could learn a lot from your chill attitude.
I wonder how many people that come here and become involved in the community are able to set a definite end to their purchasing path like you are. I think I've done a fairly good job of it, but my sense is that upgrading and discussing products becomes a hobby unto itself. You definitely need clarity of purpose.
Let me be strait up with you Roy. I consider myself a confused and rather disillusioned individual. I don't know that I could teach anybody much of anything, I am humbled if I can.
To the best of my ability, I try to remain emotionally neutral and relaxed. I am human and so my resolve still requires a foundational support. If this is not already part of a strong genetic predisposition, my environment nurtures the direction of my growth to a greater extent. How much of what I call me is my own doing? Do I even have a hand on the wheel or am I simply experiencing my actions from the back seat?
"Decisions, intentions, efforts, goals, willpower, ect., are causal states of the brain, leading to specific behaviors, and behaviors lead to outcomes in the world. Human choice, therefore, is as important as fanciers of free will believe. But the next choice you make will come out of the darkness of prior causes that you, the conscious witness of your experience, did not bring into being"
-Sam Harris from his book Free Will
I can certainly see times in my life where the direction I would take was balanced on-top of a thin string, at the mercy of the wind.
I have been left to my own wits for much of my life. I rather feel this has pushed me to the worse side of the spectrum of possibilities given my genes.
I have gone from extremely shy to extremely confident, currently somewhere in the middle. I never truly feel I know what I'm talking about
. I have moments you would think I'm completely insane: I walk back and forth arguing with myself out loud. Mood swings are present if not well hidden. I bottle up anger at times to the point of wanting to punch someone to oblivion. I don't like the way the wall looks at me...
No, I have my problems.
"You definitely need clarity of purpose."
A wile back, I became obsessed with reading books and watching videos on topics people around me could care less about. Attempts at conversations on these topics would lead to responses like; that's all BS, stop trying to act smart, you're boring. One of the people I discovered in this marathon was Peter Singer. Watching his talks and reading his books has influenced me to make compromises, remove stress, and rearrange my priorities.
I gave up gaming a wile back to redirect those funds towards other goals. My disappointment with games, however, made this that much easier. It's still very tempting when I watch something like this however;
MGSV(looks amazing- that music😍)
I pay attention to my weakness and strengths. I left that hobby but asked myself what is the minimum I would need to enjoy myself yet still be able to restrict my spending. I surely find health important for both my physical and emotional stability, exercise it is then. Exercise can be a chore at times tho, how about adding something more relaxing also? Music, Bam! Let me take note of expenditures, so on...
This is no guarantee of success however and I still fail at times.
I'm now lost so I will stop here... (T_T). Hope some of that was useful/relevant.