Yup. The Neutrik 4-Pin XLR connector with gold pins is the way to go. I've used the nickel Neutrik connectors before, but they only have the black rubber boots - and are not very exciting.
Here's a picture of my 4-Pin XLR Balanced Hifiman cable from a few days back. I don't even own Hifimans at the moment, but was just excited to build one.