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Hmm. I really appreciate all the advice. Your points all seem valid and congruent to what I've thought.

And yet when it comes to the down and dirty of it, I can't make results happen and I'm still waiting for good things to happen to me rather than making good things for me.

Eg cute girl in my class. I can calculate my appearance as much as I want, but until I figure out when and what to say to her and ask her out, she's just another pretty girl that I never really talked to. You know?

Ok I'm going to post a reply because I used to be you.

Firstly, "nice" guys really do finish last. I'm not saying you should be a jerk to women, but you shouldn't go around showing them your sensitive side either. You'll come off as a needy person, which will make a woman run from you or instantly banish you to the friend zone.

Pickup lines do not work. More often than not, you won't have the confidence to pull it off, so it will come out sounding like something you read on the back of a cereal box.

The phrase "girls just wanna have fun" is the truest statement I've heard when it comes to dating. They want someone who will keep them on their toes, and be different from all the other guys who tell them how beautiful they are all day.

My main point is that attraction is not a.choice. You will never "convince" a girl to fall for you by being her bestie.

There's really too much to type out on my tablet, but I'll leave you with this for now: next class period, go sit beside the cute girl. Then, write on apieceof paper "Are you ready?!!" and hand it to her. She's going to be extremely intrigued at this point, and will almost always say yes. Then...start a game of tic tac toe with her. If you win, gloat (jokingly). If she wins, imply she cheated (jokingly). The key here is to separate yourself from every other guy she's talked to.
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I wouldn't do the are you ready note thing unless compoopers has at least spoken a couple of times to her. If I was an attractive girl and some unknown guy have me a piece of paper saying are you ready I'd run to the campus police thinking I was being stocked by a sex maniac. I think it's better to just talk to her and work your way in from there. Compoopers, the next time you go to class just sit beside her and start a conversation up about the class. Be patient and over the next few days the small talk will evolve to more sociable and interesting areas. If she's interested in you you'll know by her body language and where the combo eventually leads. It'll also give you a chance to know more about her. For all you know she could be someone whose personality doesn't mesh with yours. I personally find arrogant women a complete turn off no matter how attractive they are.
Edited by DigitalFreak - 2/25/13 at 7:18am
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I wouldn't do the are you ready note thing unless compoopers has at least spoken a couple of times to her. If I was an attractive girl and some unknown guy have me a piece of paper saying are you ready I'd run to the campus police thinking I was being stocked by a sex maniac. I think it's better to just talk to her and work your way in from there. Compoopers, the next time you go to class just sit beside her and start a conversation up about the class. Be patient and over the next few days the small talk will evolve to more sociable and interesting areas. If she's interested in you you'll know by her body language and where the combo eventually leads. It'll also give you a chance to know more about her. For all you know she could be someone whose personality doesn't mesh with yours. I personally find arrogant women a complete turn off no matter how attractive they are.

 

You're in the same class, and she's bound to have seen you. The are you ready thing builds up anticipation for her.

 

Working your way in there is the oposite of what you want to do with an attractive girl on a college campus. You need to make your intentions somewhat known. 

 

I forgot to mention. At the end of the game(s), you should request her number as your prize/consolation.

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Oh we're talking about relationships.

 

I quit trying to find someone. Every person I've taken a moderate interest in in the past like year or so always already has a boyfriend or something. 

 

Also, I'm too busy now to maintain a relationship what with working 20 hours a week on top of school. 

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I've actually been pretty good at getting people interested in me in positive ways and getting numbers and such over the past couple of years, but typically end up squandering blatant opportunities to go to "the next level" because I have some genuine ******* issues I need to work past before it's okay for me to go there. 

 

Like, my game's fine, but I can't keep track of what my actual objectives are.  I'm working on that, though, and may actually be entering a relationship again for the first time in a good long while.

 


 

Thanks for the turntable stuff, MF!  I keep telling myself I just want to spend a few hundred bucks to get my feet wet, but that's probably ghetto given where the rest of my setup's at. 

 

Oh yeah, speaking of ghetto, living near the poverty line a good portion of my early life has given me a thing for, like, girls with nice families who own their own homes >_> .  Nothing gets me going like knowing a girl had both her parents growing up.


Edited by driver 8 - 2/25/13 at 8:00am
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This is all uncomfortable conversation that I'm not ready for yet... But, taking notes nonetheless.
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Oh we're talking about relationships.

 

I quit trying to find someone. Every person I've taken a moderate interest in in the past like year or so always already has a boyfriend or something. 

 

Also, I'm too busy now to maintain a relationship what with working 20 hours a week on top of school. 

I'm here as well. I have little enough time as it is without a relationship to keep going. Drunken hook ups on nights out every now and then will suffice for the time being, although I'd like to have someone close to talk to and schiit.

 

EDIT: To add to the conversation above, around college/university age, being the "nice" guy does not work. I've been there, You have to have some confidence and self belief to get anywhere. Remember, girls and guys are the same as you, they'll take notice of the person who stands out.

 

I'm not saying, don't be a good person, but more don't be a doormat - express yourself and your opinions(in a non dogmatic way) and if be somewhat assertive otherwise you'll never get anywhere. Coaching really helped me in this respect.


Edited by Tangster - 2/25/13 at 8:39am
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@jgray91

I keep forgetting to mention I received the headphone stand a week ago. It arrived safe and sound and looks great. Thanks for going out of your way.
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@jgray91

I keep forgetting to mention I received the headphone stand a week ago. It arrived safe and sound and looks great. Thanks for going out of your way.

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@jgray91

I keep forgetting to mention I received the headphone stand a week ago. It arrived safe and sound and looks great. Thanks for going out of your way.

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Thread Starter 

I keep hearing about exciting new stuff slated for release later this year, but I can't talk about it because it's hush hush. 

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I was not thinking to myself, "Hm, what could I buy in audio gear this year?" until you said that.
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Came across this gorgeous creation last night: http://www.gunsinternational.com/W-J-Jeffery-333-Magnum-square-bridge-Mauser-great-wood-and-cased-.cfm?gun_id=100317791

One of the best looking .333's I've seen in a long time. Have to sell my kidneys to afford it, though.

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I was not thinking to myself, "Hm, what could I buy in audio gear this year?" until you said that.

 

 

I'll say this: a good number of my favorite brands and manufacturers have something new scheduled for this year. Especially in portable audio.

 

Actually, I mentioned one of them to you a few PMs ago. You know ... the one that has me giddy like a school girl? Yeah. That I can't wait for.

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