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Ya. Just tired of trying to improve my appearance waiting for some girl to come fall in love with me. I just need to take initiative. But first, I have to learn how. So you're saying hot schiit doesn't work? How about Audio Technica?

Anyway just have no experience in the matter, so I guess I need to get up and learn how to talk to girls.

 

Being somewhat aloof and disinterested can actually work to your advantage, as it makes you seem more mysterious. Try to develop a weird quirk or unique style to set you apart. Just don't overdo it obviously. But yeah, you don't want to seem like you're trying too hard.

 

 


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I actually think Tom is easier to get into... there's less anti humour in my mind, like the Casey Tatum kind of segments.

 

Have you ever watched Chris Morris' Jam? That's another amazing series. Intensely bleak and amazing.

 

I'd argue that with more going on in the Awesome Show, you're more likely to find an entry point, something to grasp onto. Those Casey Tatum moments don't seem particularly inaccessible to me, as on the very surface you can at least appreciate the "lol random" element of it. Plus with all the video editing and craziness, it makes it more exciting if not a bit overwhelming. TGTM on the other hand is really low key by comparison and a little hard to digest at first. You say anti-humor, but to me that's the very essence of TGTM. I think you have to come to know their personalities first before you can really appreciate what they're doing with TGTM (the fixation on strip malls and public access culture, etc.).

 

I'm actually more enamored with Eric Andre lately. The Eric Andre Show is just so great in so many ways. I'm going to also try getting into the Loiter Squad again with season 2, as season 1 didn't really do it for me.


Edited by MuppetFace - 2/25/13 at 3:20am
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In my experience, it is always when you stop looking for a girl and feel quite happy single, doing other things, that you find someone. When you a looking, you exude a needy hormone, whereas when you do not care anymore, women (or men) will jump you.

 

Yeah, this pretty much.

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So, I'm considering a new portable rig.  My preliminary research seems to indicate that I might like one of the following:

 

Scenario 1:

 

  • Sansa Fuze or Clip+ (either with a 32GB SDHC)
  • L6 LOD (or equivalent)
  • Portaphile 627 amp

 

The troubling part of this scenario is tracking down a steady supply of LOD cables, especially since I'm far too busy (read:  lazy) to make my own right now.  Amp-wise, I'm pretty much going off of Mike's (Headfonia) review of it's signature.  Feel free to throw out an alternate suggestion.  As for why I'm leaning towards the Fuze (as opposed to the Fuze+) and Clip+ (as opposed to Clip.Zip), I just like the way they look better than their updated counterparts.

 

Scenario 2:

 

  • Samsung Galaxy S III (or other Android phone that allows digital out)
  • Matrix Mini-Portable DAC/amp

 

While I'm not thrilled with the idea of combining a phone and a DAP into one device, I'll be honest, I could use a new phone.  I've got an aging LG Optimus that is looking forward to early retirement, and it's had no qualms about alerting me to it's intentions.  I'm also not on-contract anywhere at the moment, so switching a provider won't be too much of a hassle.  BTW, I did get a chance to check out the Xperia ZL at CES.  It's slick, and it's got a host of consumer-friendly DSP features (stuff that I'll never use), but it just didn't thrill me to death at all.  As for the DAC/amp combo, again alternate suggestions are welcome.

 

Scenario 3:

 

  • HiFiMAN HM-901

 

This is kinda scary as I'll be going into it blind.  The HM-801 doesn't exactly get rave reviews around here, so I don't know what to expect from the 901.  I did see it as CES, but a dead battery prevented me from getting any meaningful intel on the SQ (or basic operation for that matter).

 


 

Basically, I want to be able to play FLAC files (or any non-proprietary lossless really, other than WAV which is just too damn space-inefficient).  I'd like to keep it as simple as possible without giving up too much yardage in performance (SQ).  So I'm not terribly keen on building the stack to end all stacks.  And, if at all possible, I'd like it to look pretty.  For me, that means clean lines.  This rig will be mostly be used for IEMs, though it may be called upon to drive an occasional can or two.

 

Any suggestions folks?


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I kinda have been doing the whole "I'll be a better me and naturally get people attracted to me" thing for a year or two now and I've not really had much success with it. I'm not really desperate to meet girls, but I can tell that what I'm doing now isn't going anywhere on that front.
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Anyway just have no experience in the matter, so I guess I need to get up and learn how to talk to girls in the right way. Important life skills!

 

IMO (and experience), I think simple honesty and just being nice/kind will get you pretty far.  Also, no sense being someone other than you are.  After all, in addition to wanting to be the right person for someone else, you also want to find the right person for you right?

 

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In my experience, it is always when you stop looking for a girl and feel quite happy single, doing other things, that you find someone. When you a looking, you exude a needy hormone, whereas when you do not care anymore, women (or men) will jump you.

 

Yeah, this pretty much.

 

This too.  This is one area in life where being a tryhard doesn't pay off.


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I was not saying pretend to not be looking around, but actually not be looking around. Things come in their own time. You could try a more agressive strategy but that does not seem to be who you are...anyways it also depends on your age...because being nice and honest works well at 30 but not so much at 18 in my memory...
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Being somewhat aloof and disinterested can actually work to your advantage, as it makes you seem more mysterious. Try to develop a weird quirk or unique style to set you apart. Just don't overdo it obviously. But yeah, you don't want to seem like you're trying too hard.

You have to be interesting in a positive way. Chances are high you're already unusual among your peers in some way you're not aware of, because it seems normal to you (eg, you're really into headphones). This might be something you can find in common with a member of the appropriate sex, or it might just be a conversation starter. Just be aware of their boundaries too -- don't bore them to death with headphone talk if they're not as into it as you are.
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I kinda have been doing the whole "I'll be a better me and naturally get people attracted to me" thing for a year or two now and I've not really had much success with it. I'm not really desperate to meet girls, but I can tell that what I'm doing now isn't going anywhere on that front.

 

What does being a better you entail?

 

Like I said, it could come off as trying too hard, especially if you're overdoing it on trying to look dapper or preppy. Actually, looking like you don't care just a wee bit is best with girls. Obviously you don't want to go without showering because that's disgusting, but maybe wear your hair in a way that is a little messy, like you just woke up and stumbled out the door. I'm going into super stereotype mode here, but often times a girl will desire to see a guy she likes as being a bit helpless on his own, like he needs her to take care of him to an extent. The tricky part is, you don't want to give off too much of a helpless vibe, because she doesn't want to be your mom. You need to obviously be competent and able to survive. However she might like the thought of you needing her to "be a better you." The little things. Roughness around the edges. The "metrosexual" thing is way overplayed these days (though maybe it's so overplayed, that it's no longer predictable and thus no longer overplayed?).

 

The "be yourself" thing is kind of a motivational new age-y crock, but there's truth to it: you don't want to be so wrapped up in trying to play a role that you start tying too hard to not try too hard.

 

You want to have a bit of mystery to your personage, be a little hard to figure out at times. You want to seem a little lost in some respects. However in one area you should be transparent: it's important to be open and upfront about what you're looking for. In this area you need to seem to have experience. This is actually really hard for a lot of people because they don't actually know what they're looking for themselves.

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You have to be interesting in a positive way. Chances are high you're already unusual among your peers in some way you're not aware of, because it seems normal to you (eg, you're really into headphones). This might be something you can find in common with a member of the appropriate sex, or it might just be a conversation starter. Just be aware of their boundaries too -- don't bore them to death with headphone talk if they're not as into it as you are.

 

Go the Lord Byron route a keep a bear in your dorm room.

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That's certainly interesting although i don't know if it qualifies as positive. But sure, give it a try. As long as your roommates are cool with it.
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Hmm. I really appreciate all the advice. Your points all seem valid and congruent to what I've thought.

And yet when it comes to the down and dirty of it, I can't make results happen and I'm still waiting for good things to happen to me rather than making good things for me.

Eg cute girl in my class. I can calculate my appearance as much as I want, but until I figure out when and what to say to her and ask her out, she's just another pretty girl that I never really talked to. You know?
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The most successful pickup line in history is, "Hi!"
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Hmm. I really appreciate all the advice. Your points all seem valid and congruent to what I've thought.

And yet when it comes to the down and dirty of it, I can't make results happen and I'm still waiting for good things to happen to me rather than making good things for me.

Eg cute girl in my class. I can calculate my appearance as much as I want, but until I figure out when and what to say to her and ask her out, she's just another pretty girl that I never really talked to. You know?

 

That's just it, she's just another pretty girl. There's always going to be a pretty girl. They're all different avatars for the same need you have inside, just a form that raw desire takes projected outward. You don't want to spend months ingratiating yourself as her go-to for counseling and advice, yet at the same time you don't want to just come out of nowhere.

 

Have you had many opportunities to go to parties? I don't mean those frat things where people just drink and don't actually socialize beyond acting stupid, but an actual social event where you can meet people. Joining clubs can be helpful too, and I met a lot of cool folks talking about literature on campus (though that may not be your speed; just a suggestion). You also meet people through work; just make sure you don't flirt while on the job whatever you do. There's also speed dating and group dating which can be fun but also annoying. Finally online dating sites get panned by some folks, but they're actually pretty useful. You can meet local people and meet up with them in a public place (don't go to their house or anything like that on a first date). The benefit there is that you can be more upfront about what you're looking for while still taking the time to get to know the person. It can be a nice way of finding out what their interests are too.

 

Honestly, the best dates when I was in college were those that came from meeting someone through a club-related social event, meeting a friend of a friend, or meeting someone from an online dating site. The goal is to see how you two feel around one another, but it's also about having fun. Go and do things you actually enjoy. Never forget that she's probably just as nervous and self conscious as you are, so try to make her feel at ease.


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????

 

Oscars.

 

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insurance company

 

LOL!!!

 

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Oscars that nobody cares about.

 

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x5

 

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x10 and the fact that Argo won the best picture pretty much sums it all up.

 

HATERS!!!!!

I love Affleck since his early days (with Kevin Smith, another one of my faves) and I'm glad that by going in the directorial route he has re-invented himself!

 

I guess I just love mediocrity (probably cause I identify with it! :-p)

 

 

P.S. Loved Argo too. Almost crapped my pants on those final 25 minutes or so of the movie.

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Oscars.

 

 

LOL!!!

 

 

 

 

HATERS!!!!!

I love Affleck since his early days (with Kevin Smith, another one of my faves) and I'm glad that by going in the directorial route he has re-invented himself!

 

I guess I just love mediocrity (probably cause I identify with it! :-p)

 

 

P.S. Loved Argo too. Almost crapped my pants on those final 25 minutes or so of the movie.

Despite all the hate he's received for his acting (and Gigli) he's kept working and turned out to be a pretty decent director and producer. And he and Jennifer Garner are just adorable.smile.gif

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