Hello Head-Fi, I've been here for quite a while, but it's the first time I posted a thread like this and I'm not sure where to put it. I looked up other threads about the same topic, and they seem to go here in the the member's lounge. So I decided to put it here.
I have been with the Head-Fi community for about a year. Over this period of time I have made a lot of very important friends who I love interacting with, many of which are in the Anime/Manga thread. I also bought my first audiophile-grade headphone, the HD800 from the Trading forums. This community is dear to me, and I wouldn't want to lose it for a trivial reason.
Unfortunately, I do know that scams can happen on Head-Fi. I've heard people talk about it before. Before I unconditionally trust every member here, I have to put my safety at number one. Here is my story, and I'd like some advice on what to do.
On May 4, 2012, I saw a Cardas cable listed for sale on the Trading Forums. I've been looking for a new cable for my HD800, so I was interested immediately. The asking price was 299 Euros, and I immediately sent a PM asking if he can sell it for a lower price. I asked for $200 USD, expecting him to ask for a higher price than that. Surprisingly, he immediately accepted, and asked me to pay the money into a Westpac bank account so that we can save PayPal fees.
The trader had 22 posts and doesn't have any trading feedback, so I didn't feel safe with the whole idea and insisted on using PayPal. He accepted, and gave me a PayPal E-Mail to put the money into. I asked him about shipping and he said he would look into it. I said I didn't mind any kind of shipping as long as it had a tracking number.
I didn't hear from him for another two days, and then he sent me a PM yesterday saying that the cables have already been sent to me! This is really surprising to me at first, because it's normally common sense to never send your items until you have received a payment. He said he sent it already, and the tracked/insured option cost $50 so he assumed I wouldn't want that. I asked him about the tracking number, and he said he didn't have one, and it can take anywhere between 1, or 2 or 3 weeks to deliver. It's said in the rules of the forums that you MUST send items with a tracking number. He didn't do that and now he's asking for the payment.
I seriously think this is very fishy, and as much as it pains me to say it even though I love this community so much - I just don't trust this guy. He seems really nice in the PMs, but I've read threads about scams in the past on Head-Fi and they have always been polite and impossible to detect in PMs alone.
So now I posted this thread because I don't know what to do. If I send the money and he just vanishes without ever having posted a cable (we don't even know if he owns one), then I've been parted with my money. If I don't pay the money, maybe he, a person with just 22 posts and no feedback, report me, and I'lll have an infraction or maybe even banned! I bought a HD800 and sold a IE8 on this site and everyone was very satisfied. I've also made many friends who I want to keep talking to and interacting with. Adding onto the fact I want to keep using the trading forums here, since I have just started my audiophile journey, I can't afford to get banned.here for a trivial reason like this.
So, everyone of the Head-Fi community, what do I do?
Edited by ImperialX - 5/9/12 at 6:50pm