I won't pretend to know what you're trying to convey here, but if what I'm guessing is right, then that's where your error is. You think like an enthusiast. People looking into this culture probably see that you're some no-life running away from reality and just cope with yourself by fapping to fantasised settings and characters that's not remotely realistic. Same thing can be applied to audiophilia.
Same thing can be applied to gaming. But that hobby is mainstream enough such that most people don't think that anymore.