I'm not really a loud listener. I just like to have a lot of bass at low-medium volumes. I've set the volume on my receiver to deliver the cleanest signal without hissing or clipping (54 seems to be the sweet spot), and I've put the bass on +10dB. On the software side of things, I've eq'ed the bass to the peak the amp inside the receiver is able to handle, and I only use the volume control on foobar to adjust the volume. Depending on the song, the bass can clip with the volume slider on 25%, where on other songs it can clip when the volume is at around 75%. In those cases, I, like you, have to eq some things down, but I only have a handful of songs like that, so it isn't all that bad. 90% of my songs usually clip out when my volume slider is at around 60%, but I can only take that volume for a minute or two.
What I mean't by mine is louder isn't the way I have my rig set up, but how we eq. Simply put, when you eq down, it's going to be quieter than eq'ing up. In order to balance it out you have to up the pre-amp, whereas for me I just eq up a certain frequency and I'm done. Well, at least that's how I think you eq based off of what you said. I'll just throw up some pics of my eq settings in order to clarify.
I have two instances of Electri-Q set up in foobar, so I run both of these simultaneously. When I run across one of my odd songs that clip at low volumes, I usually disable the second one.
EDIT: This is my first time using Electri-Q, so I'm still trying to find my sweet spot for the bass area.
Eltri-q pissed me off... The app loader or what ever Disabled the volume of anything not foobar. So i keep the nrml foobar eq for eqing edm. I never eq jazz, classical rock (non techno) stuff as with a tube n dt 880 it all sOunds great! Also its a shame that ultrasone s logic does not work with all ears....