I can understand that you might feel like that, being a largely classical listener (If I'm not mistaken), but as a popular music fan, I really regard the production as an integral part of the artwork. Modern music puts an acoustic guitar in a mix with drums, bass, electric guitar, maybe an orchestra, and vocals. These diverse parts generate disparate volumes, to consider only one feature, but modern techniques and repeated exposure mean that most listeners do not even remark this fact. All this taking place in an imaginary sound space, with no effort being given over to creating what is described as a soundstage, or 3D illusion, but rather with instruments, generally close-miked, distributed across 1 dimension, left-to-right.
Just one way in which modern music has a total disconnect from reality is the multi-tracking of vocal parts, enabling artists to sing their own harmony. No possibility there of the 'soundstage' being anything other than artificial.
So the majority of what I listen to, I listen to without the anticipation of any illusion of depth.