I've done a lot of thinking about this actually. A Buttkicker would work better than a subwoofer due to it only being physical vibrations and not musical notes. It would give the illusion of a subwoofer without the phasing.
You still need to route the audio signal through a crossover though. The full-range signal goes to the headphones and everything from 100hz or so down would be low pass filtered with either a 12db or 24db slope.
If you run through a receiver you could use the sub-out and whatever their built in crossover is, but then you are stuck using the receiver's headphone jacks. Unless you are using the pre-outs, but then you are just adding more circuitry to the signal which kind of defeats the purpose of "audiophile quality".
Probably the best solution is to run the signal out of your computer into an external digital crossover such as the Behringer DCX2496. WIth the DCX2496 you could customize your crossover slopes then send separate signals to the headphone amp as well as the Buttkicker/subwoofer amp.
I plan on working this out at some point.
Edited by sesshin - 9/1/11 at 8:10pm