right. well since i sent my husband to the shop for me, i now own a wonderfully soft pair of Bose AE2s.
I am overjoyed - out of the box, no need to stretch them, there's no pain. None under my ears, none where my thick plastic glasses sit, none on top where the band rests.
These are £119 worth of pillowy soft light-as-a-feather headphoney-goodness.
Thanks everyone who journeyed through this with me, i appreciate all the suggestions and the help. You've been great. :)
Now, off to find some flacs and play with my new toys! It feels like Christmas in my house right now :D :D :D