I think we are missing to things here.
The first is the differences between DIY and commercial. Most of the time, people are relieved to pay for something, we think it is a proof of quality. Yet you will find commercial products that are much worse than DIY products (singlepower rings a bell, it is not the only one).
I actually believe the biggest difference is that sometimes, DIYer spend much much less on chassis than manufacturer (chassis, connectors, button, everything that you can see and is not hidden but on the contrary is exposed as clearly as possible) so some DIY amp seem cheap and like they are going to collapse any time.
I didn't say every DIY build is great, it can go from the really awesome to the awfully dangerous and ugly sounding. It is the same thing with commercial products.
The second thing is that it is not enough to have a bunch of "boutique" components that you throw together to have a good sounding amp. Let's consider the grado RA-1 ; we replace every resistor with some super expensive ones (these at 15$ pc should do it), in the power supply we put black-gates. As for the big black capacitor, they are replaced with 4µF silver mica (I don't even know if this stuff exists but if it does it should be seriously pricey) You won't have a great amp. Even if you replace the obsolete JR4556 with a OPA637 it will still be mediocre. It is difficult to have enough current or voltage from a monolythic op-amp.
Some designs are seriously flawed and adding boutique cap is not enough, this is commonly admitted. Furthermore I believe (this is not as commonly admitted
) that a good design will not need vodoo parts (take AMB M³ or β22 or Kevin Gilmores solid states amp), not even the tube based design.
To sum-up, you can actually build great stuffs (that equals or surpass the commercial, but a CMoy is not a WA2 or a GS-X, you will at one point throw a LOT of money in your build). I too have wondered what was the "magical thing" that is inside commercial amps and make them sound that great (or as great as people describe in the reviews) to finally find out it does not exist.However DIY is expensive, takes time and necessits to actually have some skills. If we think the contrary, it is often because we can buy a M³ (for instance) for less than the price of the components, that is not the kind of deal manufacturer are willing to do (even if they have cheaper components).
(i am trying to concentrate all I have learnt, which is not much and sometimes may be plain wrong...) 