The OP's question is confusing, at least to me. Around here, when one speaks of using 3-pin XLR's for headphone plugs they generally mean 2. One plug for Left, one for Right, with the desired result being able to plug those headphones into a "balanced" headphone amp. I'm going to assume that this is what was the question that was intended to be asked and elaborate on Nikongod's answer, which is that the general audio standard is:
| 1 |
-Chassis ground (cable shield) |
| 2 |
-Positive polarity terminal (hot) |
| 3 |
-Return terminal[2] (cold) |
(table courtesy of wikipedia)
which for us would mean connecting the in-phase to pin 2, out-of-phase to pin 3 and leaving pin 1 unconnected.
Now if the OP intended to use a single 3-pin XLR as a headphone plug they are certainly welcome to do so and I can think of some good reasons to do it (avoids the whole shorting problem for one thing) but as far as I am aware there is no industry standard for doing so nor is there any commercially produced product that does so. That's not to say that there isn't, I just haven't seen it.
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Originally Posted by
het.s 
XLR Pin 3 (equals TRS stereo jack Tip) is Left channel, Pin 2 (TRS Ring) is Right channel and Pin 1 (TRS Sleeve) = signal ground. I like Nikongod's explanation about not connecting cable shield at input to signal ground but is every audio equipment producer reading this? :-)
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het.s