Middle-aged women keep striking up conversations with me - Page 5

That is so funny i was just about to respond to the habitat comment, that he would find her hiding under a rock and Erik wrote that he is hiding under a rock.   Guess he has to start picking up rocks.  Glad i refreshed the screen before i wrote so i could see that coincidence. 

The only way to really raise your confidence is to win. the only way to win is to swing the bat. Remember, in the major leagues, your a good ol pro if your batting 300.

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The only way to really raise your confidence is to win. the only way to win is to swing the bat. Remember, in the major leagues, your a good ol pro if your batting 300.

But you've got to start somewhere too. So get that bat and step up to the plate!

She wants your mangoes.

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The only way to really raise your confidence is to win. the only way to win is to swing the bat. Remember, in the major leagues, your a good ol pro if your batting 300.

Head-fi, advocates for domestic abuse.

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Someone is going to think you're cute, smart and funny and climb all over you.

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You're going to end up with phone numbers, women calling you, and, sooner or later, someone is going to ask you back to her place to keep talking.

If you can carry a conversation and make a few people laugh, without being creepy or threatening, someone is going to drag you home.

The idea of a (hot) potentially deranged woman climbing over anyone (Kirosia included) and then dragging him home is kinda scary you know. You never know what might go on behind closed doors!

The random conversation advice is something I might try in NYC for fun. I don't usually go for random hook-ups but in NYC I guess I could make an exception because it's the city of hot women! 

I've read just bits and chunks from this thread, but I figured I'd say this: Older women are extremely sexy. I'd advise you to have as much fun as humanly possible.

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Go to a bar, get a Coke, and look for someone to talk to. Sometimes, you'll get approached. Start conversations. You're going to end up with phone numbers, women calling you,

 

and possibly some interesting and exotic diseases

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Kirosia was forged under very unique circumstances. Finding a kindred spirit would be quite hard, I've yet to encounter one. 

I already found a kindred spirit yet she wanted to stay friends. That implies I can look around and discover. 

Do not make it too hard for your self. You can meet the most interesting people in the weirdest circumstances. If you feel comfortable with the lady you are with enjoy the company.
 

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You're overthinking this.

Put yourself in a social situation where you have to talk to people. Go to a bar, get a Coke, and look for someone to talk to. Sometimes, you'll get approached. Start conversations. You're going to end up with phone numbers, women calling you, and, sooner or later, someone is going to ask you back to her place to keep talking.

You don't have to pretend anything. Show up and start talking. If you can carry a conversation and make a few people laugh, without being creepy or threatening, someone is going to drag you home.

Once this happens several times, you'll get over the self-consciousness and feelings of inadequacy. While you won't get prime pickings at most bars, it's an easy place to meet people. Once you get comfortable with the whole thing, you'll be able to talk to and ask out anyone you want.

Once again...awesome advice. This is basically the advice my father gave me when I was 12 and starting to get real interested in women...not the exact advice but that's about it in a nutshell. I know I wouldn't be with my wife had I not had the conversational skills to keep her interested. I think I did more than ok.
 

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Put yourself in a social situation where you have to talk to people. Go to a bar, get a Coke, and look for someone to talk to. Sometimes, you'll get approached. Start conversations.

i agree with putting yourself in a social situation, but if bars aren't your thing engage in activities that you like or try something new. it's a better way to meet someone with a common interest. take this approach and you'll be doing or learning something you find enjoyable, regardless of whether or not you meet someone. here's a good one - take ball room dancing lessons at a studio that gives group lessons. you'll learn a new skill, you might get exposed to some great music that you wouldn't listen to otherwise (and you'l hear it in a new light given a different context), and you'll have a chance to develop flirting skills, it's great exercise and a ton of fun! years ago when i did this (after a poor public performance as a member of a wedding party) and my friends thought it was kind of strange my response to them was that i was spending my evenings with different women in my arms trying new moves and positions - how were they spending theirs?   that sure got their attention!  i had a ton of fun, made a bunch of new friends, both male and female, and got in great shape. along the way there was some nice dating and i eventually met my wife.
 

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I would go with a friend to a bar. He would pick some hard drink and I would very noticeably order a glass of milk. Some guys would laugh and so did the women. At least 99% of the time a woman would ask why I was having milk. You job is to come up with a witty response as I'm keeping mine.

Luis, this site is about sharing and helping out. you're now married (and even if you weren't), why not share some of your witicisms.
 

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I would go with a friend to a bar. He would pick some hard drink and I would very noticeably order a glass of milk. Some guys would laugh and so did the women. At least 99% of the time a woman would ask why I was having milk. You job is to come up with a witty response as I'm keeping mine.

I used to order milk as well but it was the bartender that would always ask me, "Why milk?" I looked young and under the drinking age and when I ordered milk it just made me seem even younger. So she kicked me out of the bar. I showed them my Passport as proof that I was 23 years old and they said that they could confiscate it for being fake. I mean I was 23 and looked 18 and that U.S. Passport was the real deal. Getting all of that attention was great though.