If you're even a little interested in hearing headphones, you owe it to yourself to attend this meet regardless of any other factors. Reading other people's impressions will only get you so far - you should actually listen to headphones for yourself to get a better idea of what people are writing about on Head-Fi, and something like a meet is THE best way to do that. I also guarantee that you won't regret attending either - a meet is about not only the gear but also the Head-Fiers and the info you can gain from talking to people will be a lot more valuable than trying to read posts by unknown faceless people typing over the Internet. I've been to 23 meets in my time on Head-Fi so far and have never once regretted attending any one of those meets, and most of them I traveled a significant distance to get to (most often by plane). I'm flying out to this meet because I know some of the area Head-Fiers but haven't seen them in 3 years now and would like to see them again. (I'm also going because I always love re-visiting NYC, it's the greatest city on the planet! But that's beside the point.) All I can say is that if you attend you'll have a lot to gain experientially. Do not let this opportunity pass you by because you think 3.5 hours is too far to drive - I think you'll find the whole meet experience to be more than worth it.
thanks for the insight. i assume you have someone coming with you though, that's the thing. i NEED someone to come with me. even though im 26 now my mom will never allow me to go by myself and for good reasons.