My situation;
I am very close with my sister. She has always been their for me in times of need. When my wife contracted Cancer she would go keep her company when she would have Chemo and I was unable to be their.
Her husband however is really starting to get on my nerves. He has been on a mission to make millions. After losing his steady job almost three years ago, he started his own company. According to him, he was always ready to make that big deal that would put him over the top. A year and a half ago the company was doing so bad he was unable to take a salary. But he stuck with it assuring everyone that the deal was in the works and he would be rich soon. My father started giving them money on a regular basis just to cover living expenses. It would only be for a few extra months he said until the deal goes through. They have three kids. The mortgage on his million dollar home has not been paid in a long time and my Dad has been giving them money for 18 months since he stoped receiving a Salary.
I have always lived below my means. Putting money away for retirement. They are the exact opposite. They must have the biggest house on the block, the new built in pool ect...
They started calling me for money for food nothing crazy a few hundred a month or so. I suggetsed they go on food stamps which they did. Now I still get the same calls for food money. We go out to eat all the time and of cource I pay but my brother-inlaw always wants to go to a steak house and he orders like he is going to the electric chair. Apertizers for the kids which he ends up eating, a side of shrimp to go with his t-bone. My wife and I are so concerned about the bill we have burgers.
It has gotten to the point where I say lets go to the Fridays or Applebees and he rallys the kids to push for steak. I gave her my credit card for emergency use. It has been used to pay 2K for christmas presents, 1K for birthday presents, 1K for kids clothing and maybe 3K misc. I also picked up the tab for our yearly faimily vaction for the last two years. He has finally begun to look for a job again but nothing has gone through and summer is approaching. Our family rents a cabanna on the beach fo the summer.
I must have gone through 10K this year and their is no end in site. I love my sister and nephews but I feel I am being taken advantage of. I have tried to talk to my sister but he seems to have her under his spell. She was having trouble with the foodstamps they were approved but the money was not hitting thier account monthly so he needed to go down and get it straightened out. She asked one day for grocery money because the money was supposed to be in their account, I said OK but why has'nt this been straightened out. She said her husband was planning to do so that day when he woke up (it was noon) and the stamps were 5 days late already.. I lost my mind
"If these were my children I'd be in the parking lot at dawn waitng for the case worker", this is a big part of your problem I told her. She said she understands but what can she do
Sorry for the rant
And no I do not need any more brothers or sisters
I am very close with my sister. She has always been their for me in times of need. When my wife contracted Cancer she would go keep her company when she would have Chemo and I was unable to be their.
Her husband however is really starting to get on my nerves. He has been on a mission to make millions. After losing his steady job almost three years ago, he started his own company. According to him, he was always ready to make that big deal that would put him over the top. A year and a half ago the company was doing so bad he was unable to take a salary. But he stuck with it assuring everyone that the deal was in the works and he would be rich soon. My father started giving them money on a regular basis just to cover living expenses. It would only be for a few extra months he said until the deal goes through. They have three kids. The mortgage on his million dollar home has not been paid in a long time and my Dad has been giving them money for 18 months since he stoped receiving a Salary.
I have always lived below my means. Putting money away for retirement. They are the exact opposite. They must have the biggest house on the block, the new built in pool ect...
They started calling me for money for food nothing crazy a few hundred a month or so. I suggetsed they go on food stamps which they did. Now I still get the same calls for food money. We go out to eat all the time and of cource I pay but my brother-inlaw always wants to go to a steak house and he orders like he is going to the electric chair. Apertizers for the kids which he ends up eating, a side of shrimp to go with his t-bone. My wife and I are so concerned about the bill we have burgers.
It has gotten to the point where I say lets go to the Fridays or Applebees and he rallys the kids to push for steak. I gave her my credit card for emergency use. It has been used to pay 2K for christmas presents, 1K for birthday presents, 1K for kids clothing and maybe 3K misc. I also picked up the tab for our yearly faimily vaction for the last two years. He has finally begun to look for a job again but nothing has gone through and summer is approaching. Our family rents a cabanna on the beach fo the summer.
I must have gone through 10K this year and their is no end in site. I love my sister and nephews but I feel I am being taken advantage of. I have tried to talk to my sister but he seems to have her under his spell. She was having trouble with the foodstamps they were approved but the money was not hitting thier account monthly so he needed to go down and get it straightened out. She asked one day for grocery money because the money was supposed to be in their account, I said OK but why has'nt this been straightened out. She said her husband was planning to do so that day when he woke up (it was noon) and the stamps were 5 days late already.. I lost my mind
"If these were my children I'd be in the parking lot at dawn waitng for the case worker", this is a big part of your problem I told her. She said she understands but what can she do
Sorry for the rant
And no I do not need any more brothers or sisters
