Hi Black Stuart,
I think I don't understand you or maybe you are wrong

. Here in Galicia we do not chill red wine. Why would we do that? The weather is chill enough! And of course we love tasty food and even spicy, in a similar way than the rest of northern spain. One of our typical tapas is the
"pimientos de padrón", a kind of hot green chili that we serve just slightly fried. We even cover the
"polbo a feira" (boiled octopus) with hot paprika

. Our recipes are usually full of strong flavours, specially in the inland and mountain areas. In my experience southern spanish food is much softer, but maybe they like their "picante" better. Which is normal due to the hot climate there. Where did you live when you stayed in Galicia? I do not like the food usually served in the south of the
Rías Baixas, for example, although their seafood is the best. Maybe you lived there?

About the meet, you may ask in this forum or even in Auriculares.org, where most people are spanish. The forum is just created, so you may wish to wait some weeks until it gains users.