i am no internet green guy. i have been online (addicted!) since the early nineties and have done plenty of chatting on irc, aol instant messenger, message boards, etc.
i have "met" many a fine person online. i had a pretty serious relationship with a girl that i met online. we talked for almost a year before anything past just that happened though. i have friends whom i've only met once, but are extremely close with only through online communication. i have never used a dating service though.
it strikes me as a bad idea when i see posts like "i want to try online dating because i work too much and have no time to find women.." to me, this fits into the "diet pill" category of this generation of which which i am admittedly a part of.
my "diet pill" definition is this: i can't wait to learn or find or spend the time to do something right, so i'll take the quickest route to what i want, even if this is unhealthy or harmful to me. i use diet pills as my favorite example of this in today's society. people don't want to work out or excercise; they just want to take a pill and wake up thin, even if it takes years off of their life.
getting back to my point (does he even have one?!), if you spend absolutely no time getting into a relationship, i don't see how you can expect it to be a lasting one. yes there are a few chosen times that it works out, but i don't see how they can all work out too well. if you have no time to meet a woman, how can you expect to find time to spend with one? don't find yourself caught in a relationship/marriage that you don't want to be in; don't become another divorce statistic. trust your gut.
i agree with tuberoller's opinion to meet women in courses of some kind, or at a show of music you like. i agree that clubs and bars suck -- nobody meets their soulmate while hammered and ****ing eachothers' legs on the dance floor. i'd add "church" or "gym" to that list as well, if that's your thing.
to me, joining a service like this seems to be more of an act of desperation and you're only going to be finding people who fit into that category.
|I guess she likes losers.
acidtripwow: ain't that always the way? at least, it always seems so when it involves my female friends that i have a crush on.