So, we are back.
Had a good time. Some laughs and lots of drinks.
No dice though. Meaning he is no further along now than we were before we left.
For reference, I am 26 and he is 27. We are not youngsters to say the least.
Perhaps depression is a valid point. I have thought about it, but have ZERO clue as to what to do.
Also, in response to suggestions that he may be pleased with his current position, I know he is not. He just does not really know what to do about it. It's easier to just stay at home and play games than it is to go out and work at a meaningful relationship. Most of our mutual friends are either married or in serious relationships. I personally have no girlfriends to intriduce him to. Neither do most of our mutual friends. As you get older, it seems to get more difficult to meet members of the opposite sex. I mean, for me, I spend 5 nights a week relaxing with my live in girlfriend after work. Neither of us get home before 7pm, and I am in bed by 10:30pm. The other two nights are divided between drinking, friends and family.
I don't know what to do. I really feel like I have tried everything. To those that suggested moving away to teach english or be in the marines, i have suggested similar things. I believe that a drastic change in scenery can be VERY therapeutic. He is just not the type to go. I went to England last year for vacation and asked him to come but he wouldn't. Despite the fact that he had absolutely nothing better to do.
And to Jahn, this not a recent development. This has been the way it is for years and years.
To Eyeameye, my very point is that I don't want him to change the way he is. As a person, I think he is awesome. Totally someone to be envious of in terms of "value" as a human being. I understand that he needs to find himself, I just want to help nudge him in the right direction.
*sigh*
Had a good time. Some laughs and lots of drinks.
No dice though. Meaning he is no further along now than we were before we left.
For reference, I am 26 and he is 27. We are not youngsters to say the least.
Perhaps depression is a valid point. I have thought about it, but have ZERO clue as to what to do.
Also, in response to suggestions that he may be pleased with his current position, I know he is not. He just does not really know what to do about it. It's easier to just stay at home and play games than it is to go out and work at a meaningful relationship. Most of our mutual friends are either married or in serious relationships. I personally have no girlfriends to intriduce him to. Neither do most of our mutual friends. As you get older, it seems to get more difficult to meet members of the opposite sex. I mean, for me, I spend 5 nights a week relaxing with my live in girlfriend after work. Neither of us get home before 7pm, and I am in bed by 10:30pm. The other two nights are divided between drinking, friends and family.
I don't know what to do. I really feel like I have tried everything. To those that suggested moving away to teach english or be in the marines, i have suggested similar things. I believe that a drastic change in scenery can be VERY therapeutic. He is just not the type to go. I went to England last year for vacation and asked him to come but he wouldn't. Despite the fact that he had absolutely nothing better to do.
And to Jahn, this not a recent development. This has been the way it is for years and years.
To Eyeameye, my very point is that I don't want him to change the way he is. As a person, I think he is awesome. Totally someone to be envious of in terms of "value" as a human being. I understand that he needs to find himself, I just want to help nudge him in the right direction.
*sigh*
