Girlfriends

I don't have a girlfriend right now, so I am spending as much money as I can on audio and my other interests!
This can only last so long...so I am rocking my own world!
Then again, in my opinion: NOTHING is more important than your woman! If mama ain't happy, no one is happy.
grain of salt,
md

I have this habit. If you do something give it all you got or dont do it. She hates me for everything I do. I love electronics, computers, headphones etc.. She says I'm obsessed and gets angry with me. How can I be so obssed and consumed when I am enjoying so much?

I heard something about headphones have more priority over her. Utter crap ... out of 24 hrs 6 hrs I sleep and about 3 hrs are spend reading on electronics perhaps tinkering with them and the rest are spent with her. I even spend 90% of my income on her .... what do I say now?

disturbed

I reckon it's time you ask her to read John Gray's "Mens are from Mars, Women are from Venus".

She needs to appreciate your interests.

My girlfriend hates the fact that I could spend $600 on a source when I could have easily played the CDs from my computer. One would try to explain, but many women (including mothers) tend to have that sceptical look anyway whenever one tried.

Sometimes it's a good idea to ask your prostitute's hourly rate before intercourse.

Seriously, I see there being two types of relationships.

Case 1: Unmarried, not living together/not sharing expenses such as rent, car, etc. In this case, your money is none of her business or anyone else's. Of course, knowing this, if you boast about how much you spend on something you know your partner thinks is stupid, then you kind of get what you deserve there.

Case 2: Shared expenses. In this case, you should decide up front how much each person is to contribute to rent, food, electricity, etc. After that, there should be some kind of entertainment budget that is on an individual basis--be it percentage based or fixed amount based. Whatever you do with that money is also none of the other person's business. This allows your gf to buy designer clothes, hypoallegenic makeup and other idiotic stuff without your ridicule and allows you to buy your audio crap.

You can never expect anyone else's full approval of your activities. Therefore, the healthiest people simply stop requiring it.

That's another way of looking at it.

But I betcha when she's in the whinging mood, whether you want it or not, she'll start criticizing anything and everything that is related to you, no matter how remote it is. It's this part which sucks the most, IMHO.

Case 2a: Shared Income, Partially Shared Outflow. There is a case to be made for controlling information in a male/female relationship. Women all know this and do it all the time; you don't want to hear their rationalizations, it would only piss you off. Put simply, there are matters that each party either doesn't want to know about or does want to know about that would only aggravate them. These matters are best avoided by both parties at all times. Personal expenditures, if reasonable (ie not jeopardizing necessary food, clothing, and shelter), fall into this category. Face it, individual boys and girls also have individual boy and girl interests. Don't plan on discussing how you intend to spend your money recreationally unless you plan to be willing to change what you intend to spend your money for. Your new toy will never be as important to her as it is to you and it may be viewed as a threat. Put another way, over the last 16 years, what my wife has not known, has not hurt me. And it works the other way, too. She needs the same freedom to spend and from criticism.

As for obsessive toy behavior, 2 suggestions. If your partner is pretty sure she is at the top of your "obsessed list", she won't be as worried about what list items two and three are. Finally, if you already know she isn't nearly as interested as you are in the new Pure Tubey Gritfree CD player, please realize that trying to get her interested will only appear to her as obsessive behavior on your part in violation of suggestion 1.

Good luck!

wheres aiotron on this matter?
I love his rants


Well I've got a paranoid one. No matter what anyone does she will not believe. Its like she thinks the whole world is against her.

Believe me shes got a heart of gold and is a very intelligent person to talk to but I think a lot of us like to look at faults first?

I like her for who she is but some days not everything looks bright and cheery so I blow my top *kaboom*

We could write volumes and volumes on behavior patterns ... someone care to do the intro?


Well money doesn't matter to me much ... I would give her all that I have if she asked and I wouldnt bat an eyelid. All I ask for is let me do what I love ... I love non living things like circuit boards and I also love living things like her. Both get equal priority ... how can I love someone if I dont love myself?

or do what I love?

Enough of this love talk. Lets put on some phones and have a beer

I am to old for a girl. What would I do anyway,nothing that I can think of or that works LOL But I do have a dog and he said that I can do whatever I want with my time and money. He is very understanding and truely loves me unconditionaly. But when I was younger forget high-fi my money was to spend on girls and other bad things.

haha thats funny LTUCCI1924

Re: Girlfriends

one time i asked her if i could wear headphones while she was uh.. well, you get the idea. however, she knew i was joking and we shared a hearty laugh (or a laugh as hearty as a laugh can get when both laughers are naked).

she thinks it's retarded, so i always bring it up and we just joke about it. she doesn't complain about it to me; she knows i won't really take it. so when we talk about holiday presents and anniversaries and whatnot, i always suggest "buy me headphones!" and she says "i will NOT buy you headphones." i dunno, it's funny for us i guess.

I'm laughing right now,but not at any of you.I think you guys all need to place things in the proper perspective.Would you be upset if your girl bought a $400.00 pair of shoes to match the $600.00 purse she bought last month?Maybe that'a a bad example,but I believe in doing such things within a proper ratio.That ratio being 1 to 1.Whatever my largest single hobby related expenditure,I am willing to spend that same amount on her or something she wants to do.Example:if I spend $500.00 on an amp,I am willing to spend that same amount on a her at gift giving occasions.I have been married for 14 years and my wife has her limits,I far exceeded them with the Orpheus incident,as it has become to be know,and now don't get anywhere near the boiling point.The best thing about a relationship like mine is that my wife always wants to be able to experience the things that I am willing to spend so much time and money on.Whenever I buy new gear she wants to hear it as well and I am always willing to share.I have also learned to never to be critical of her spending even when I know she has seriously lost her mind.i also try to get my wife involved in other ways.She now looks forward to the CES shows in Las Vegas because we make a vacation out of it.She is going to China with me for an audio show as well.I get to check out and buy cool audio gear and show the wife a good time too.It all works out.

Women definetly think differently than men. Does anybody watch "Sex and the City?" They're always buying very expensive shoes and clothes and I don't understand it. Do women really spend that much money on this stuff? I've never asked any women I know. All I get is rolled eyes when I talk to a girl about this stuff. So now I just lie. Works better for me.

I suppose I'm lucky enough to be part of a newer generation in which wealth is substituted with egalitarian values. I buy my audio crap and she can buy her $400 purse with her own damned paycheck. When I give a gift, it's because I want to--without a calculated formula based on how much I've spent or earned. When I receive a gift, it's also without such expectations.

Ah well, being wealthy is probably better anyway. Not likely something I'll ever find out.

women spend lots of money on shoes and clothes, and guys never understand why. Guys spend lots of money on gadgets and toys, and women never understand why.

I think the most important thing to guys is to have fun, thats why we buy gadgets and tech toys and such. One of the most important things to women is image, so they like to look good.

But i mean why listen to me, im only 17 .