Getting older, how you do guys (and gals) deal with it? - Page 3

Getting older rocks. First thing you need to do is get over that fear of getting older. There's nothing you can do to stop it. You're going to get older. You're going to die. Your life is ending one minute at a time. Of all the things in this world, it's the only thing you can really count on happening. Each hour you burn is a perctange of your life gone. As you get older and older, this percentage becomes increasingly significant. Spend your hours in your youth like you would if they were worth 10 times as much.

Despite the fact that you can't stop aging, you never have to grow up. I know I never will

Yes but no matter what, no one can live in this world, look back and say "been there and done ALL of that!"

Create new firsts. On a daily basis think one must think; "if I die tomorrow, what would I have wished I had done today?". Then do it. If you can't/won't/don't, then make it a goal to get past whatever stops you. With that out of the way, rinse and repeat. It helps to have a health sense of realism, and long term planning to reach these goals. But the day I feel I grew up and became a man is the day I realized how paramount having goals are to my life. Before then, each day would trickle by and took the next for granted. Sure I'd work towards the betterment of my life. But if you take each day as it comes, you find they take you instead of you taking the day.

If my life is for rent and I don't learn to buy
Well I deserve nothing more than I get
Cos nothing I have is truly mine

While my heart is a shield and I won't let it down
While I am so afraid to fail so I won't even try
Well how can I say I'm alive
-Dido

Good one Mike, but I'm 99% certain you aren't serious.

im 21 n all uve described ive gone through already. Dont underestimate the youth, we own u geezers so bad

Ok gotta develop a bit else people are gonna start flaming me. Mid life crisis huh, realizing that youre no real addition to society, that youre not gonna be a big positive change for the world but just a grain of sand amongst others just like it, realizing that studies only matter if you want them to, that your parents were right, about EVERYTHING (yes kids, sad but true, only it wont be sad when you realize it, youll just like your parents more n the world less)... etc?

Please. Get over yourselves. The world is full of surprises and things you don't yet know. I dont believe im superman, but I believe I can achieve whatever I put my mind to. Isn't that the only way to achieving things?

Its very nice to live life through your kids' and all, but thats your kids' lives not yours. Whats gonna happen to you when your kids leave home, gonna let yourself rot in a corner as your life has no more meaning?

I'm not flaming the mid-life peeps on the forum, but think it through rationally and objectively, keep a positive opinion of things and an open mind, and you'll pull through, thats all there is to it.

Life only has no point if you give it none. Try living some more and realize there are plenty of things you haven't done that you'd still like to do, and strive towards those things, whatever they may be.

See you made me sound like a preacher now... :'(

Good advice, and I try. My creaky old knees won't allow me to parachute jump nor many other untried physical undertakings. I love food for example, but even that bores me. I've now sampled practically every foreign, palatable food group there is. And deviant sex has such a negative stigma attached to it.

I go kayaking... on a river called De Nile.

I'm a mere 26, but I can definitely tell I'm in a transition period, at least mentally and philosophically. Not quite old enough to be mistaken for an adult, but starting to look out of place when hanging out w/ friends still in college. I play video games competitively (majority are high-school or college-aged), and I'm practically an old fart at tournaments... but an old fart that kicks butt and places high!

I'm starting to recognize simpler things, like walks on a beautiful day or time to do whatever comes to mind, are much more attractive to me, because the opportunities to do them go way down if you have a typical job. Making sure I feel mentally and physically healthy as much as possible is much more important. Gaining perspective on what's worth getting upset at and what isn't (some people call this growing thick skin) is easier, since you have more experience and care less what random people say or think.

The main thing I regret after getting out of college is losing my social network, and not being that good at meeting new people now that school's over. Most of my good friends, the ones I'd hang out w/, moved away for their jobs. So, while it's pretty cool to say that I could toss a dart at a US map and have a 50/50 chance of having some friends in whatever state it landed on, it doesn't do me much good most of the time.

Theres a trick to being social again. See, after my own transition period, ive noticed that I wasn't as "happy looking" as I was before. Age of course can be the problem, but im 21, and you 26, so no problem there. All you have to do is stay as open minded as possible, happy looking as possible, and have normal (stupid?) conversations with people you want to know better. Things will pick up from there, they did for me

When you hit 50 and up you will remember these words....

GETTING OLD AINT FOR SISSYS!!

watchit bub !

some of us "geezers" make up for your youth and exuberance with experience and good old fashion NASTY !

49 goin' on 29

Yes ill give you experience. A very important thing it is for sure

Scrypt should butt into this conversation... He'd enlighten us all a bit

Moral of the story and bottom line--- life does not end at 30 (or 40, 50, 60, etc.) even though TV and Hollywood would have you believe people just disappear or ride off into the sunset at that time. You are a work in progress until the day you die, you never get "there", wherever "there" is for you. If you are lucky enough to get to the "there" you foresaw in your teens, you quickly realize there's a whole big horizon beyond that...

Man I know exactly what you're talking about. In a short period of time I had a ton of good friends move away. I still hang out with people, but it was really just situational stuff. You know, hanging out with paintball friends... while playing paintball. Chill with the racing buddies... on autox sundays. No real friends left that you could just call up and do and talk about whatever with. On top of that, I have a really small family, and because of religious reasons, one half of them won't talk to me anymore.

I'm still going through a period where I still really miss having a core group of friends. All of my co-workers are a generation apart from me, and the people I meet, to borrow a phrase from Fight Club, seem to be single serving friends. No real long term friends where you really respect the person's opinion, instead of just hanging out because you have nothing else to do.

But it doesn't bother me as much anymore. I know that just by meeting lots of people and getting out there, I'll increase my chances of finding more like minded people that will eventually replace my core group of friends. Some times it's also fun being the odd man out. You get a different perspective on things.

But if there is one of the things I value in life most, it's a small core group of close friends. Whether that's your family or other aquantinces I had no idea how much other people can enrich my life until I lost contact with those that did. It doesn't matter how many people you meet and interact with on a daily basis, you can still feel lonely without the intimacy of friendship.

not that i would understand anything he said

you should make the effort, i found it to be really worth it